Transform Your Relationship with Money

Understand your relationship with money and step into your financial power

I used to have an unhealthy relationship with money and it held me back for YEARS. I saved and saved and saved, not wanting to spend anything because my subconscious thoughts were stuck in scarcity. This stood me in good stead financially when it came to buying my house but the years leading up to this point were holding me back in many ways that I was totally unaware of. 

I’d buy the cheapest thing on the menu when eating out. I didn’t even buy a kettle at one point because I thought it was a waste of money as I wasn’t going to be staying where I was long-term. I also spent far too long thinking about whether to buy 5 or 7 flannels (which I must add were less than a pound each).

Delving into what was going on subconsciously changed my life. I learnt that there were many beliefs under the surface that were dictating my thoughts, feelings, and actions. I have done deep money work time and time again to move through these old patterns which would’ve previously stopped me from even starting my business let alone achieving huge financial success with it. 

This is one of the reasons I now share my financial wins so openly – because my relationship with money is now the polar opposite of what it was. The past me would NEVER have done this – she would’ve been horrified at the thought of it and would’ve potentially even judged other people for doing so. 

Sharing my financial wins is one thing but I’ve also invested well over £60,000 in my business over the last 2 years. Again, something I’d NEVER have thought I would’ve done – the thought of spending pounds previously left me feeling physically sick – but here we are a few years down the line in a completely different position. 

So what shifted? I mastered my thoughts, feelings, and emotions when it came to money – which was imperative for me to build both internal and external wealth. 

This is why I’ve created this blog post: to support you in understanding your relationship with money so you can step into your financial power. 

You have a relationship with money

Start to consider money as something you have a relationship with. Your relationship with money is about how you think and feel about money. This, in turn, will impact how you receive and invest.

Money can bring about feelings of shame, guilt, power, and freedom, and your mindset can unconsciously associate money with those feelings. As our mindset is wired for survival, we’re constantly on the lookout for danger and being ‘part of the pack’. This served us well when we were living primitively and needed to be aware of predators, and it also serves us now in moments of potential danger, but the problem is that many people live in that emotional state. 

Every successful entrepreneur knows that it is their job to utilise their mindset in ways that support them to experience positive emotions. As our unconscious beliefs drive 95% of what we do and how we feel, it’s important to address the beliefs and drivers that limit us. Because our beliefs about money can hold us back significantly (as mine did for years), and perpetuate more of what we don’t want, it’s important for us to become aware of and address these. 

When we consciously recognise anything that’s holding us back when it comes to our relationship with money, we have the choice to let go of what’s limiting us.

If we focus on lack and scarcity, that’s what we’ll create more of. If we focus on abundance, that’s what will come into our reality. 

What is your current relationship with money?

The core beliefs you have about money and how money works in the world will shape your thoughts, feelings, and actions: i.e. what you believe you can and cannot do with money, how much money you believe you’re allowed, entitled, and able to earn, how much you can and should spend, how much money you give away, your ability to invest with confidence and success, and your attitude towards others. 

By observing your thoughts, feelings, bodily reactions, and interactions with money you gain awareness of your current relationship with money. The way you feel and interact in financial conversations is also a direct indication of your money mindset.

As with all beliefs, our core beliefs about money are formed by observing and internalising the money messages we learned from those around us.

These are some common beliefs I’ve heard time and time again when it comes to money:

• “Rich people are greedy.” 
• “Money is the root of all evil.”
• “People with money work all the time.”
• “People with money only care about money.”

When you have negative beliefs about money, you repel it because, at an unconscious level, you will sabotage your success to remain congruent with your current beliefs. 

Therefore it’s imperative to create new beliefs if you want to attract money. With awareness, we can change the beliefs that no longer serve us. 

To delve into mindset work further, I recommend downloading my free training – The Psychology of Business Success. You’ll learn to identify and overcome beliefs that are currently holding you back so you can create your next level of success. 

Transforming your relationship with money

Take some time to journal on these questions and decide what beliefs are and aren’t serving you. 

• What do I believe about money?
• What beliefs do I have about my capability to make money?
• What do I believe about people that have money?
• If I was paid £5k – 10k+ a month, that would make me feel…

Once you have explored these, decide what new beliefs you want to have instead. In a similar manner you would overcome your limiting beliefs, or train your subconscious mind, you can transform your relationship with money. 

Start by becoming aware of your limiting beliefs and thoughts around money. Then, choose the beliefs you’d like to have instead. For example, ‘Rich people are greedy’ can become ‘I get to choose what the abundant version of me is like’. 

Transforming your relationship with money is a mindset practice. Start to recognise your limiting beliefs in the moment and replace them with more supportive beliefs. Doing this consistently will support you to transform your relationship with money. 

Making financial decisions based on what you want your reality to be as opposed to taking action from a place of fear will support you to change your relationship with money when done in a way that feels ‘safe’. One way I support clients to do this is to encourage them to objectively evaluate their decisions as opposed to defaulting to a scarcity mindset.

I have a free training, The Frequency of Money, that will support you to connect with your highest self and sell your services from this place. The mindset, energetic, and strategic work we’ll do will open up your capacity to create high income months consistently. 

Journal prompts

It’s also important to think about what you want your relationship with money to be like. What are your goals and intentions regarding money? How do you want to feel and what action do you want to take with money?

Here are some journal prompts that will support you to reflect on this and step into your financial power: 

• What actions am I taking when it comes to money?
• What actions am I not taking when it comes to money?
• Do I look at my financial statements?
• Do I track my expenses?
• Do I have a budget?
• Do I have savings and/or make investments?
• What is my financial literacy like?
• What small shift can I commit to making to develop healthier money habits?

Affirmations

Affirmations are positive statements that help you overcome limiting beliefs. Using affirmations is one daily mindset practice I recommend to all my clients. Here are some affirmations that will support you to cultivate an abundance mindset. 

• Money flows to me easily. 
• I get to choose what the rich and abundant version of me is like. 
• I create my own version of success. 
• I am worthy of receiving money. 
• I release all blocks to attract money. 

My programme, The Empowered Woman, is for the woman ready to attract more than ever before. Join the programme to step into your true power and become a magnet to internal and external wealth. 

If you have any comments, thoughts, or questions about this blog post, leave them in the comment section below. 

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Love, 

Helen xx